While a divorce is difficult for both spouses, it is even more difficult for children to endure. Even if children are not showing signs of emotion, it is likely that he or she is still experiencing hardship. Some children cope with anger by withdrawing themselves from activities or family, while others may exhibit outward emotions. Regardless of whether children are showing their emotions, it is important to address your child’s concerns.
Here are some tips to help your child move forward during the divorce process:
Spend some alone time with your child.
While any divorce can be extremely challenging and overwhelming, it is still important to make time to spend with your children each day. Having consistent family time, such as eating dinner together each evening is important to establishing a healthy relationship with your child during this tough time.
Always have an open line of communication.
At times, children may detach themselves from their feelings, which can make it difficult to get a sense of how they’re dealing with the divorce. Reassuring your child that you are there for them and that you can provide them with guidance on coping with the divorce can make it easier for him or her to express their feelings or concerns. In addition, it may be beneficial to have your child speak with a school counselor or therapist.
It is important to keep the best interest of the children in mind when dealing with a former spouse. In order to effectively co-parent, former spouses must collaborate with one another and come to an agreement that will benefit the children. Try to always show one another respect even if you do not agree with your former spouse. In addition, it is important to refrain from having heated discussions in front of the children or talking badly about the other spouse.
Always be consistent.
It is important for children to have a stable environment surrounded by people that he or she can always depend on. If you promise your child that you will be at his or her sporting event or dance recital then you should make sure that you show up. Making commitments to your children and following through with it is very important, especially during this tough time.
If you are going through a divorce, it is important to be cognizant of your child’s feelings. In addition, it is important to take note of any changes in his or her behavior, especially if he or she is becoming self-destructive.
Ending a marriage is not easy, especially when children are involved, but it may be necessary. The lawyers at Larry McCord & Associates, LLC have experience representing spouses in all aspects of matrimonial and family law litigation, including child custody arrangements. The complexities in divorce and custody cases can be overwhelming and emotional. Please contact Larry McCord and Associates, LLC at (631) 643-3084 to learn more about the firm’s services and approach to child support disputes.